My study of transformational work, success & prosperity principles started when I was 11 years old. I was the only child of a single mother and had the rare opportunity to be my Mother’s partner as she studied metaphysics and learned that we are the masters of our own destiny. The things that she learned caused her to become a transformational coach and Prosperity Teacher long, long before those things were all the rage. To say that my childhood was odd is a drastic understatement and the story that I share with you below perfectly demonstrates that.
The story below also demonstrates what I have devoted my life to—helping people realize that they have ALL the power to choose the outcomes for their lives, their businesses and their teams. ALL THE POWER.
The thing that makes me different from other coaches or consultants is that I ONLY know possibility and solution oriented thinking…I did not discover it in my 20’s or 30’s or 40’s…I was raised in that understanding, it is all that I have ever known. When a seeming difficulty presents itself to me, I am VERY clear that it is meaningless…absolutely certain that it can be altered. Circumstances have no power over me, they never have. This makes me an exceptional ally to the intentions of my clients and students. I am able to show them how to judge things by their intention for the OUTCOME and not by the way they look in the moment. This is a rare skill as most people are very reactive to whatever is presenting itself in any given moment. Reactions create powerlessness.
Power comes from being able to stay at peace no matter what is happening around you and this is a skill that I can and do teach.
YOU get to choose the way your life turns out, YOU get to choose what happens to your business or your project. YOU get to choose your mood and your outcome. It is always your choice.
My life is about helping people and companies move from fixed perspectives to growth possibilities…if you want to create something new and are ready to do the work then I’d love to help you. If you “think” a lot about changing yet don’t have a real commitment to taking action, I am definitely not a good fit. I only want to work with people and companies that are ready to get into action for new outcomes.
I will leave you with a story from my childhood that gives you some perspective on your power to choose…
The Choice Is Yours
Joy or no joy, happy or unhappy…that choice is yours and yours alone. Contrary to what you believe, things and people and circumstances can’t make you ‘happy’ or ‘unhappy’, only YOU can do that.
Granted being happy for no reason or being joyful no matter what takes skill and determination; however, it CAN be accomplished. You can be happy and joyful no matter what, whether you are shoveling crap out of the cat’s litter box or dancing at a ball with a gorgeous partner…the choice is yours and yours alone.
To be happy and joyful no matter what requires you to develop the skill of making something up out of nothing, generating pure unabashed enthusiasm for no reason what-so-ever. This CAN be done and I know this because I was trained to do it…when I was about 14 or 15 I wanted to go to the mall with my friends and my Mom wanted me to first help her wrap some presents. Being a cooperative teenager (NOT) I did not wish to wrap the presents first, I wanted to go to the mall…
My Mom said that if I could wrap the presents with her displaying an attitude of joy and enthusiasm, I could then go to the mall, mind you now the wrapping of the actual presents could have taken about 30 minutes if I had been more willing…instead it took all night…
I said that I would wrap the presents, however I was angry and sullen and if you know my Mom that was just plain unacceptable…we had a swinging door from our kitchen into her office and she said “go into the kitchen and come back through that door with enthusiasm”….so the sullen, angry teenager went through the door stomping her feet and came back through with some pathetic version of “happy” to wrap gifts….Mom said, “NO PASS” —do it again.
Keep in mind now my Mother was a Prosperity Teacher & Results Coach so my whole life was a classroom and this incident was no different…back I went madder than ever through the damn door…back again I came, madder…”NO PASS, do it again”…
Back I went, complaining that I WASN’T happy, so how could I generate ‘happiness and enthusiasm”, my Mom “just MAKE IT UP, do it again”…
Back I came crying about how MEAN she was and how none of my friends mothers did this crazy stuff, blah, blah, blah….”NO PASS, do it again”
This went on for several hours, back and forth through that silly, damn door and then FINALLY…I got it…I had to just CHOOSE IT, I had to MAKE IT UP OUT OF NOTHING. Was there a “reason” to be happy? NO! Was there evidence to support my enthusiasm??? NO! Did that matter??? NO!
I just had to generate something out of nothing to get the damn job done and in that moment I mastered it, I got it and I came flying through that door the happiest son of a gun you ever saw! Mom said “PASS!!!!!”
That was one of the defining moments of my life and one of my greatest lessons, my Mother knew what she was doing, she trained me that day that it doesn’t matter what is happening all around you, you CAN CHOOSE to be joyful, happy and enthusiastic no matter what. That choice is yours and you simply make it up. You can do this whether you are sitting in traffic, waiting tables, cleaning toilets, parenting kids or sitting in the sun on a tropical island.
Life brings to you what you bring to it, if you bring complaining and despair then life will bring you more of that…if you bring happiness and enthusiasm then life will multiply that for you.
So today….run through that swinging door with CRAZY JOY AND ENTHUSIASM just because you can…I dare you!